Pretty catchy title eh? I suspect it grabbed your attention but I had to pick it. On Monday, August 10th, I met with Dr. Wojciech Morzychi, a senior Chemotherapy Oncologist and now the lead on my case. I expected to hear positive news about my cancer but early in the conversation he said “I have the worst possible news.”
I had a PET scan on July 20th. Cells from my original tumour have metastasized in my liver and there is no cure. There are a couple of chemotherapy options which may extend my life if effective, but they will only stop replication of cancer cells and not offer a cure. I return on September 1st to make a decision on how to proceed. I will share more after that appointment as to my decision.
News of this nature is unsettling for me, my family and you my friends. I have no intention of allowing cancer to define how I live the rest of my life. I will count of you to continue as support pillars with uplifting vibes. Clearly this sucks, but the best way you can help is to join me with Dignity facing the time ahead, Courage to cope with the next treatment and obvious eventual outcome of death, Humour as we reminisce about past and present times, Grace to share love freely and without reservation, and Faith in God when my time here comes to a close.
By the way, right now I feel healthy, stronger each day and am eating everything I can although in child-sized portions. I can do an occasional beer and plan to try a sip of wine in the near future.
Both Janet and I eagerly await the arrival of our first grandchild. Our daughter-in-law Becca and son Chris are about a week past heir due date so there is an exciting moment coming any time. We know they are having a boy. I find it conforming to know the O’Hara name continues.
We made the move from our home of almost 33 years in Dartmouth to a wonderful apartment in Halifax at the beginning of August. Janet’s 94 year-old mother lives in this building which makes our new location more attractive.
We hoped to get more for the house but it needed a lot of work. So we can’t retire as much debt as we planned but we’ll be financially okay going forward. And when the eventuality of death arrives, Janet’s financial future is secure with life insurance and a portion of my Pensions.
My 67th birthday is coming up on Sunday, October 25th and there will be a celebration and a party to which you’ll be invited once plans are in place.
I used some of the proceeds from the house sale to purchase a 34’ sailboat and I plan to get on the water as much as a I can between now and the end of the season. I’m always looking for people to go for a sail so consider yourself invited to come along for an adventure.
All of our five children live here right now. It gives me joy every time we collect for a meal. We have ordered a table from the Amish Furniture Store which should arrive before the Canadian Thanksgiving in October. It will seat 10-12 people. With children, spouses, and a girlfriend, our head count stands at ten. I envision many meals with the good China and “smashed potatoes in the feasty room” (Note: that was how our son Drew described meals in our dinning room years ago).
My point is I plan to go forward with a cup-half-full perspective and invite you join me in that effort.
As always, thank for for being at my side throughout this challenge and going forward.
Peace, Love and Laughter